You might conjure reasons such as a scarcity of time and/or money. You might question your authority and whether you truly have anything of value to offer. You may feel powerless in your ability to change. It may all seem very risky.
These limiting storylines are strongly rooted in our cosmology; our belief about who we are in relationship to the world. We are growing up as a species and our collective self-image is in flux. In many ways, we have viewed ourselves as children in a hostile universe. As the picture evolves though, the human being is recognizing the potential for a dynamic and interdependent partnership with life.
Here are just three ‘old story’ tenets that could be keeping you from bringing your essential gift to life:
1) We live in a dangerous and punitive world. When this is the story, we expend a great deal of energy to stay safe. We do not trust our world will embrace our uniqueness because we believe, from our earliest conditioning, that standing outside the pack is potentially deadly. Making our way in the world is a battle. Smarter to run for cover and seek the security of the known path.
2) We do not have authority. The concept of an outer authority, or God, is deeply lodged in the collective unconscious. We struggle to own our power, our capacity to effect, our right to choose what we do with our lives. The story of ‘original sin’ speaks to this sense of being innately flawed and unworthy, like bad kids. When stepping out and speaking up, we harbor the collective fear and guilt, as if this is a form of disobedience. We grapple with this question of who is really in charge of our lives.
3) We are not worthy of happiness. By adulthood most people are more accustomed to, and therefore more at ease with, suffering than happiness. A client of mine remembers her Aunt rebuking her as a child, “You did not really expect to be happy, did you?!” Before conditioning, yes, happiness is home base. The first time this doctrine is reflected, it comes as a shock. In my late teens, I struggled with depression and my father said, “Amy, all good McTears are depressed.” He was hoping to make light of it, but the idea was devastating to me. I had been expecting happiness. (Luckily for me, he unknowingly triggered my inner rebel who had a really difficult time accepting this ‘Life sucks and then you die’ precept. Henceforth, the life work. Thanks, Dad;) I love you.)
So how do you see yourself in relation to your world? What has been your story? And what story do you choose now?
Stay tuned, I’ll be back to offer you a New Story….