Growing Up as a Species

We have colluded with a world that denies our true nature, making it an unsustainable world. In our growing up as a species, it is time to realize that we, as individuals, have an ability and an accountability to affect a new reality.


I grew up believing the world is a dangerous place. But, after a whole lot of suffering and some careful deliberation, I have changed my mind.

Reality is magical. I can observe my perception of it changing from one thought to the next.

When I notice the world around me looking ominous, I pause, reel in, examining my thoughts and what they reflect about my strongest beliefs.  Though contextual elements vary, I can always find one of these dispirited myths at the source:





1. Pause & Observe the Underlying Myth

The first thing I do is allow myself to feel compassion for my feelings. Yeah, these are powerful cultural myths being fed and reflected to us at every turn! They have been drilled into us for a long time through our creation stories, nursery rhymes, media, politics and personal relationships. We are well-practiced at them, like it or not.

Just as I would comfort one of my children suffering emotional pain, so I comfort the child in me. It’s tough being human. By doing diligence around this act of self-compassion, I not only make myself feel better, I also do not have to store the emotional pain to be dealt with at a later time.  Maybe you can also appreciate one less piece of emotional baggage. 😉

2. Update the Story

Next, I consciously change the thought. If “I am separate” is the myth currently getting the most airtime in my head, I identify the antidote – the medicinal thought to counteract this rather poisonous one. What thought do I prefer? What is more true?

My new thought could be simply, “I belong”.  I belong to this earth, this species. I am inextricably linked to everything everywhere when it comes right down to it. And I have a strong belief that I am needed to do my part, just like everyone else.

3. Look for Evidence

Next, I look for evidence to support my new thought. As I look for it, lo and behold, I begin to see it in my environment. I see how alike we are in so many ways. I see how we all want the same thing at our core. I see how we effect one another, how we effect our environment and how our environment effects us. The dispirited myth of separation begins to look comical.

Before I know it, my perception of my world has morphed. I see a world of compassion. I see a world I am undeniably a part of, a world to which I belong. I see our similarities as we are all trying to secure ourselves, to find our way, to do what we think we are supposed to be doing. I see myself in you, and you in everything.

Am I out of touch with reality? Or, am I choosing which to align with? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Let’s talk. Comment in the box below.

What does it serves to focus on a negative reality? How can we address negative situations while maintaining our energetic allegiance to the reality we prefer?

Let’s discuss that next post.




2 thoughts on “Growing Up as a Species

  1. Lesley Howard

    Amy, thank you for this post.
    I have found through learning about, and practicing (often gracelessly) non-violent communication that I am most likely to go the “bad neighborhood” of my brain (your myths) because it is easier to be apathetic, or self-righteous, or hopeless than it is to feel the deeper emotions beneath . . . because when I allow myself to peel back what is under those myths I am always tremendously sad. And feeling sad is harder than feeling apathetic.
    When I allow myself to feel sad however, and dwell with that sorrow and comfort the part of myself that feels sorrowful, as you note re: our children, it shifts to allow openings that I couldn’t see before–but it is uncomfortable work.
    So I think we focus on negative reality because even though it’s unpleasant, it’s *less* uncomfortable than sitting with sadness.

    1. Amy McTear Post author

      Lesley, thanks so much for your thoughts. I agree. We do a lot unconsciously to avoid confronting our pain. The thing is these underlying sorrowful myths are only as true as we make them. As you say it is tough but important to be with the sadness, to experience it, register it, make it conscious, and then even more vital that we let it reveal our hidden beliefs. This is what truly frees us from the sadness and emotional negativity. It is important to challenge these beliefs. Are they REALLY true? I have a spiritual teacher that says that all negativity is an indication that we are believing something that is not true to who we (BIG SELF) know ourselves to be…


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